Co-Founding Author Daniel Landberg

Co-Founding Author Daniel Landberg

Daniel is a musician, IT expert, and maker.

Q: What is How Love Lasts?

This project is about examining the dynamic by which people persist in longterm relationships. It’s about just looking at the data and seeing it for what it is, not imprinted with opinion or bias. So, How Love Lasts is a resource. It’s a website, a database of stories, a theatre project, and who knows what else.

I believe in partnership, and the present. When I think about the future, I hope I feel warmly towards my partner, I hope I think of them as an extension of me in a sense, and I hope I don’t feel lonely. But I don’t really worry about that. I feel like the future is a sum of the decisions I make in the present, so I want to live in the present as best I can.

Even taking all of this into account – I recognize hindsight is 20/20, and that’s where other people’s stories come in. Finding out how other people have made partnership work is getting other’s hindsight before it’s your hindsight – indirect foresight! I’m hoping I can see this data and gain some insight into my own partnership, and then share the data with others so they might be able to as well.

Q: Why you? Why now?

I’ve grown a lot in the past year and that growth has makes me feel both compelled and well-equipped to take this on.

In my own relationship, I’ve been able to express myself more freely. I’m not entirely there yet of course. I struggle with it and I find under times of stress I struggle with it even more, but I feel I have momentum to go deeper, and push myself emotionally.

I understand all too well how difficult vulnerability can be, so I’m hoping this understanding helps me create a safe environment for people to share their feelings and experiences.

When it comes to my professional and creative life, I’ve recently come to realize that everything I do is truly a choice. I’ve been living a very career-oriented lifestyle, and I may go back to that, but for now, I’ve left it behind and am glad to be focusing all my energy on this project.

Photo by Spencer Balliet

Read more about Daniel’s journey here.

Stories by Daniel Landberg:

  • Kev and Jo – The Rewards of Risk

    Kev and Jo – The Rewards of Risk

    Kevin and Johanne (Jo) have been married for 35 years, and Kev says, “being with someone for that long, 35 years – it’s the best thing you’ll ever do.” They live …
  • Thane and Kim – The Same Page

    Thane and Kim – The Same Page

    Thane is detail-oriented. He’s learned new skills to help maintain the house he shares with Kim – replacing drywall and repairing a deck – tasks he’d never done before. Kim exudes a …
  • Helena and Tom – Growth with Purpose

    Helena and Tom – Growth with Purpose

    Tom (36) and Helena (33) live together with their 8-year-old son in Wells, Maine. We visited them during a serious snowstorm. Like most New Englanders they appear unfazed. Although they had …
  • Bob and Sue – The Letter

    Bob and Sue – The Letter

    Bob (60) and Sue (64) Lechner met in January, 1982 when Sue was a single mother raising her young daughter. Bob says, “We were friends. I used to come over and …
  • Jared and Nicole – The Plan is to Plan Ahead

    Jared and Nicole – The Plan is to Plan Ahead

    Nicole and Jared met in college in September, 2008 at a theatre audition. Jared quips, “I think it was the 27th. I think it was a Wednesday.” He’s serious – …
  • David and Israela – What’s at Stake

    David and Israela – What’s at Stake

    David puts it simply from the get-go: “One of the secrets of us staying together – since we’ve both worked [as lawyers] in divorce work over the years – we understand …
  • Carter and Janet – Life is Long

    Carter and Janet – Life is Long

    Carter and Janet’s Texas home is so full of laughter, it’s almost surprising it’s just the two of them living there. Married 27 years, their children grown and away from …
  • Sara and Gina – Like Puzzle Pieces

    Sara and Gina – Like Puzzle Pieces

    Sara and Gina – both in their ‘40s – have been together for 11 years. They met at Sarah Lawrence College; Gina was part of the theatre department and Sara the …
  • Mycah and Ashley – Not Yet

    Mycah and Ashley – Not Yet

    Mycah and Ashley were high school sweethearts. They met and started dating as freshmen in high school 15 years ago in 2000. Ashley says, ”We went to the birthday party …
  • Luke and Katy – Through Thick and Thin

    Luke and Katy – Through Thick and Thin

    Katy (27) and Luke (28) grew up in Texas, and went to the same high school, but they didn’t really get to know each other until years later. Before they …
  • Allan and Stephanie – Faith in Fate

    Allan and Stephanie – Faith in Fate

    Allan and Stephanie are a featured couple in How Love Lasts – The Play. See their story live in Los Angeles this fall! Allan (53) and Stephanie (47) Herpin are meant to be. They believe …
  • Jan Harris – Love’s Lasting Impression

    Jan Harris – Love’s Lasting Impression

    Jan and Marsha are a featured couple in How Love Lasts – The Play. See their story live in Los Angeles this fall! While scheduling our first round of interviews we received …